Hey “Savvy Readers!”
One of my followers asked a very good question the other day, “Why did I decide to marry and what qualities did I see in my husband?” Well, let me start by saying that I was never one of those girls who really had a vision of a “perfect husband.” When I was dating and the question was asked what was I looking for in a guy, I always responded with the things I knew I did not want. For me that was easier, I learned from my past relationships (and how/why they ended) things that I was not willing to tolerate in a new relationship…
- Lack of motivation and goals (sorry, but love can’t pay the bills)
- Spending more time with “your boys” than with me
- Only calling after 10pm (really, we all know what that means)
- Lying for no reason
- Trying to change me to fit into your world (ummm, I kinda like who I am)
And I’m sure there are few more things that were deal breakers but those stand out the most. So when I met my hubby, he was everything but those things that had caused me heart ache and frustration in my past. I consider myself to be very demanding, I require a lot of attention and time. And my hubby has always made me feel wanted, appreciated and important. He treated me differently than any other guy that I had dated.
After being married going on six years, everyday is not perfect but I wouldn’t change it for the world. So in the past when I could never really answer the question of what I looked for in a guy, I can now tell you what it is I see in my hubby.
- He is a God-fearing man.
- He is caring, sensitive and loving.
- He puts my needs and my children’s needs before his own.
- He is strong-willed, creative and filled with determination.
- He listens, even when I think he doesn’t.
- He is honest and truthful.
And the list could go on and on….He displayed all of these qualities when we were dating and because he treated me so differently, I knew he was the one.
I hope that I answered your question. And as always please leave your comments, questions and requests below or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
And remember…”Love never fails!” ~1 Corinthians 13:8
I’m married and I get this question a lot too. I love to hear other perspectives. The world needs to see more of this! It’s out there…ppl just can’t give up hope.
Amen! Love does still exist…and as with anything worth having it takes time and effort to make it last.
*warm & fuzzy feelings*
LOL Thanks ma’am!